Plausible Deniability

My friends are always concerned about my health. Some will ask, how you are these days. Some will ask, what and where are you eating these days… But on of my friend came up with a totally different question… Rather a discussion… A philosophical one! She was worried that the workaholic creature I have become, will some day succumb to the workload. And all this for what? All this is what she said…

Sometimes I feel all this is so pointless. Why stay away from the people you want to be with, your friends, family etc. All to earn a few extra bucks. You earn to be happy and we finally forget this very fact. We leave all that we like and go away and then really miss them and worry about them. Why? Why do all this? What if you suddenly needed someone and no one was around to support you and take care of you? Ideally you should have been able to go home to your family, at least some friend who will really take care of you.

We spend so much effort in building careers, sacrificing so much and to what end? What would you remember years later? All the time you spent in office, away from everything you wanted to do and be with. I'm not saying that you need to have fun all the time and throw away your career. No, that is equally important. But how do you find that right balance between actually being happy right here and now, and pursuing it relentlessly so that you can be happy in the future.

You once told me that you are not into philosophical discussions but these questions are so fundamental to our mental and physical wellbeing, yet when did we ever stop to think about it? Does anyone ever think about these things now? Or do they just follow the herd, endlessly chasing that elusive end, catching a glimpse of it now and then which keeps them hooked till at the end, they realize they have been chasing a mirage all along. But by then it’s too late. They are already in that one state that they have dreaded, loneliness, then they finally realize that the view from the top may be great but there is no one to share it with.

Never mind. Hindsight is a great thing but servers no purpose. All of the above statements are also futile. They may make you think for a minute or two but then, after that we start rationalizing and therein lay your true enemy. Self denial is the truly the greatest asset that humans have…

A discussion… Few words… A minute of consideration… Then we all go back to our work, never giving this a second thought… All we can this is - “Plausible Deniability is a type of lie that requires preparation as to avoid anything we don’t feel comfortable about…”